My Account: My Father Dated a Girl Who Was About 15 When He Was About 21

What she told me about 1996

I located and contacted a woman who said she had dated my father, Luis Felippe Mora. In the conversation, she wrote: “We dated in 1996 so I know nothing about your dad in his adult hood years. We were both very young.” She also said she had not spoken to him in many years, probably since they broke up.

When I asked more about their ages, she wrote: “I was not 18 in 96. I don’t think you know how old I am”. That is the wording visible in the supplied screenshot. It says she was not 18; it does not, by itself, say whether she was younger or older than 18.

The rest of her response matters

I repeatedly asked what year she graduated, how old she was in 1996, and whether she was younger than my father. She did not give an exact age or graduation year in the supplied exchange. She wrote that she did not see how her personal information would help me.

She also wrote: “When I dated your dad we were young. Nothing was abnormal about him. I haven’t spoken to him since.” She expressed hope that I could work things out with my family. Those statements are part of her account, and I am including them rather than treating her unwillingness to answer my questions as an accusation against him.

Later, she referred to the possibilities that they could have been the same age, that she could have been older, or that he could have been older. She did not identify which applied. Her description of them as young does not give an exact age for either person.

The ages and timeline are not established

I understand my father's yearbook excerpt to come from New Milford High School in 1993. If he was 18 that year, he would have been approximately 21 in 1996. That is a conditional estimate, not a birth date established by a yearbook or by these messages. A graduation year alone does not tell me his age at graduation.

I initially estimated her age from incomplete information. I now report that she later told me she was 13 in 1993, the year I identify as my father's graduation year, and that she was about 15 and in high school when he reached out to her. This clarification is my account of information she shared with me, not a statement visible in the supplied screenshots. I have not supplied a separate record of that clarification or a confirmed birth date. I cannot list either person's estimated age as confirmed.

She identifies 1996 as a year when they dated in the messages. Her reported age of 13 in 1993 and about 15 when he reached out do not establish an exact contact or relationship start date. Those details still need to be reconciled with birthdays and the reported 1996 timeframe. My headline summarizes my current account using approximate ages, not a verified age calculation. A number in a username is not proof of a birth year, and “not 18” by itself does not mean “under 18.”

Some of my own messages in the screenshots go further than the evidence supports, including my statements that I knew she was underage and that the relationship was illegal. Those are assertions I made in the exchange, not facts established by it. The screenshots do not establish a sexual relationship, an offence, or wrongdoing.

I am still asking whether the relationship could have begun before 1996. That possibility has not been independently confirmed, and nothing in the supplied exchange establishes a start date before that year.

The reported 1996 relationship would be approximately three years before the 1999 first-meeting timeframe I describe in the primary anonymous account. That 1999 timeframe is my account of when my father first met that contributor, not a statement that the conduct she later described began then. The two accounts remain distinct.

Read the first-meeting context in the featured anonymous account ↗

View the supplied yearbook excerpt and its source limitations ↗

What is confirmed

Here, confirmed means visible in the supplied messages, not independent verification of the underlying relationship or anyone's age. My statement about retaining the conversation is my own report.

• She says she dated my father in 1996.
• She explicitly writes that she was not 18 in 1996, without giving her age.
• She describes them as young and says that nothing was abnormal about him when they dated.
• I have preserved the conversation. The gallery below contains supplied, overlapping excerpts, not a complete independently authenticated conversation record.

What is still being investigated

These are unresolved questions, not findings. Declining to answer, a username, a blocked or unavailable profile, and silence do not independently prove an allegation.

• Her exact age when contact and the relationship began, and how the later age information I report fits with the 1996 timeframe in the messages.
• My father's exact age in 1996, rather than an estimate based on a presumed graduation age.
• Whether the relationship began before 1996.
• The complete timeline and circumstances of the relationship.